Comments on: Agonizing support http://www.rhythmplex.com/2010/01/agonizing-support/ Listening is more than hearing. Thu, 02 Sep 2010 01:45:52 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Jon http://www.rhythmplex.com/2010/01/agonizing-support/comment-page-1/#comment-220 Jon Tue, 02 Feb 2010 16:32:12 +0000 http://www.rhythmplex.com/?p=973#comment-220 I think it has more to do with 'not having expectation' than not paying attention. The sense of discovery that accompanies that attention can be very rewarding. If you know about something in advance, then attend, there's sort of this built up anticipation for how 'good' it's going to be. And if it doesn't go exactly the way you envisioned, we judge it as less desirable, which really is unfair, in some ways. Nonetheless, it is useful to 'know' things. There are so many times where I've found out about something after it's happened, and that dreadful feeling of 'i'll never have the chance to experience that' takes hold, which is really frustrating. I think it has more to do with ‘not having expectation’ than not paying attention. The sense of discovery that accompanies that attention can be very rewarding. If you know about something in advance, then attend, there’s sort of this built up anticipation for how ‘good’ it’s going to be. And if it doesn’t go exactly the way you envisioned, we judge it as less desirable, which really is unfair, in some ways.

Nonetheless, it is useful to ‘know’ things. There are so many times where I’ve found out about something after it’s happened, and that dreadful feeling of ‘i’ll never have the chance to experience that’ takes hold, which is really frustrating.

]]> By: Rebecca http://www.rhythmplex.com/2010/01/agonizing-support/comment-page-1/#comment-219 Rebecca Mon, 01 Feb 2010 22:21:42 +0000 http://www.rhythmplex.com/?p=973#comment-219 I never get tired of hearing it, especially from people I admire. But sometimes I get upset with myself for thinking that there is more or less _value_ in certain experiences -- especially those we have, as you say, while just seeing what we see, or hearing what we hear. Sometimes we see and hear the best stuff when we're not paying attention, if that makes sense... I never get tired of hearing it, especially from people I admire. But sometimes I get upset with myself for thinking that there is more or less _value_ in certain experiences — especially those we have, as you say, while just seeing what we see, or hearing what we hear. Sometimes we see and hear the best stuff when we’re not paying attention, if that makes sense…

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